Friday, 3 January 2014

THE ART OF BEING TRADITIONAL WITH A MODERN APPROACH....



http://blog.blogadda.com/2014/01/04/spicy-saturday-picks-january-4-2014-nice-posts-by-indian-bloggers
A quintessential Indian woman should be traditional. She should be shy, reserved, blushing at the rate of 1 blush per 15 seconds and above all she must practice geometrical drawings with her toes on the ground at the sight of a guy she likes. According to the “SOCIETY, A CRAZY BREED” dictionary, a modern girl means “A homo sapien of the female gender who suffers from a psychological illness whereby she believes that she is born with the freedom that only the male gender enjoys.” In a country like India, being modern is the more unacceptable than pre marital sex.

So I got enlisted in one of the premium matrimonial websites last year, for a period of 3 mths. My profile was paid for, extra bucks were thrown in to get my profile highlighted in blue and a little more was spent for the ease with which the male species would come across a tigress like me. After all I am such a magnificent catch. At the end of 3 mths and 72 proposals, all of which came from divorcees, innocent 25yr old divorcee with YouTube links on his profile of him singing,  10th class fail, 45 year old pedophiles, bald body builders, too thin to be carried on my shoulders, watchman, Muslim men with a fantasy of marrying a Hindu girl and women pretending to be men, my family called it quits. They were disappointed with the kind of crowd I was drawing to myself. My relatives declared that there was something very very wrong with me. When every second Indian traditional girl is finding her Mr. Perfect through matrimonial site intervention, why not me? The answer was found in my Bio which read something like this:

“We are looking for a suitable alliance for our fair, well educated and employed daughter. Our daughter is Modern and was raised in the North. We seek alliance from Like minded boy with SHUDH JADAKAM. Please contact us for the detailed horoscope”

The reason behind my failed matrimonial fashion parade was the word “MODERN”. After a few hours of analyzing, over analyzing, putting forward a thesis and a dozen antithesis, my family decided to replace the word “MODERN” with “TRADITIONAL WITH A MODERN APPROACH”. That is the sole hurdle in my journey towards matrimonial enlightenment. So now my 'About Me' says:

“We are looking for a suitable alliance for our fair, well educated and employed daughter. Our daughter is traditional with a modern approach and was raised in the North. We seek alliance from Like minded boy with SHUDH JADAKAM. Please contact us for the detailed horoscope.”

(Kindly note that there is no mention of the fact that I am an advocate. Thank you very much.)

How exactly does one become traditional with a modern approach? Does it mean that I drape myself with Kanjeevaram saree while wearing Louis Vuitton boots on my feet? Does it mean that I visit the temple every day and later smoke a joint at a rave party? Or does it mean that I touch my grandparent’s feet every time I leave the house and then at night share a snifter glass of wine with them? What exactly did it mean?

And then it hit me. Almost all Indian women are “Traditional with a modern approach”. Yes we are. We do like a drink every now and then but our family doesn’t know about it. We do wear short skirts when with friends but change into Kurta Pajama with Dupatta to cover our ample bosoms when we visit our grandparents. We do not see pre marital sex as taboo but we won’t tell about it to anyone. We like watching or reading porn but we won’t be open about it like the men. We have desires that our man knows but our family thinks we commit the crime that is sex only to procreate. We gossip about women who are adventurous, all the while hiding the adventures we have been a part of. We are Modern packed in a facade that is tradition.

So yes I am an epitome of a “Traditional with a Modern approach” woman. I have my secrets and I have my not so secret desires. I can make you a part of my secrets and force you to fall in love, all the while hiding my reality from the society. I lead a dual life. I am an illusionist.

And so you ask me, will I get married now that I am no more modern? Well, I promise you guys one thing. Whatever happens with me, it shall not be an ordinary story. It shall not be a simple case and it shall definitely not be through a matrimonial website parade. After all, I am traditional with a modern approach. *WINKS*



P.S- Do not see me as someone who is against the idea of getting married with the help of matrimonial websites. I am all for it and many of my friends are getting married to perfect hot sizzlers because of it. I just don’t like being a part of it.
P.P.S- New Year to you all!!! It is upon you and destiny to make it Happy or Crappy.

135 comments:

  1. My dear dear Red, what a catch you are! The sad truth is that hot sizzlers happen to others :P We deserve the four course meal :D With appetite like ours! Hail the traditional girl with modern approach :D

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    1. hahahah thats wht. Others get spicy tangdi kebabs and I only got proposals from bland noodles.
      Thanks for being the first to read :)

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  2. First picture is so apt for the post :) you have written the thing which most of the girls are going through.. i was tired of those sites and deleted my profile... :P

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    1. hahaha yeh, i got lucky with the pic!!! Thanks for reading babe. and pls update ur blog soon!

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    2. ya sure, it been long time :)

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  3. :D that was a fun post.. I liked how Modern became Traditional with modern approach.. reminded me of how McDonalds and KFC's have added things in their menu for, you know, Indianization.. :P I've kind of a little vendetta against matrimonial sites too.. but..err.. due to different reasons.. :D

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    1. I have to agree with Vaisakh :)
      The first thing that comes to my mind with "traditional with a modern approach" is the big franchises making aloo tikki and tikka masala pizzas :D
      Anyway, all the best in the hunt.

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    2. @ Vaisakh- hahaha true true!!! I did not even think about it. and pls tellme more about ur personal vendetta :P

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    3. @Roshan- Thank u for reading!!!!!!!! and noooooooo m not hunting!! I am being hunted :(

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  4. Your definition of Traditional with modern outlook hits bulls eye.

    I think people approach matrimonial profiles just like HR Managers approach job applications where they look for the presence of keywords forgetting that an actual living human being lies behind the profile. Its also why you see the same set of phrases or keywords being used everywhere and by everyone.

    Happy New year and dare I say - Happy - Groom Hunting :P

    Cheers :)

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    1. seriously, My parents actually cut copy pasted someone else's profile :P
      and my hobby includes gardening :/
      and no hunting...i am being hunted :(
      pls update ur blog!

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  5. Happy 2014 !!
    Blend of modern outlook plus traditional values ..just thinking what kind of tradition and modern values they still respect. Modernization as such is said to be an everlasting process without any terminal point.

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    1. I am nodding to each and every word u said!!!

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  6. You are trying to answer a tough question Milady. That which has eluded many for years. I for one, was never able to accurately answer that. Anyone who can manage to gulp down the Old Monk with aam ya nimbu ka achar is Modern yet Traditional enough for me. :P

    And here is to hope that you survive this year from the demonic clutches of societal pressure to get married. :-)

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    1. hahahaahahah I can gulp down and old monk with aam ka achar anytime!!! hahahahahahahha
      and u knw wht thank u! while everyone else is wishing me all the best with the groom hunting, only u understood the pain behind it!! :)

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  7. You go girl!!!
    We do belong to a bigoted society that does not practice what it preaches. Half the men on those matrimonial websites would claim to be all for woman empowerment and equality amongst sexes, when interviewed. But come forth a personal choice and their prehistoric mindset surfaces up.
    Just two words---IGNORE THEM
    I am so sure you will find someone who will respect you for what you are---a traditional woman with a modern outlook ;)

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    1. yes yes yes!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Hypocrisy is what makes indians indian!!
      :(
      IGNORING IT big time!!!!
      and yes thank u for reading :)

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  8. Maybe it out it right. We all are traditional with a modern approach :P

    Ofcourse you are a catch Red, one sizzling steak will come your way soon I'm sure. Your parents did not put the fact that you are an advocate? Ofcourse, which guy would want to marry a girl who quotes legal section numbers and rules at him :D Your parents have thought it through :P

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    1. hahahah my parents have thought it through...but i have a different plan all together :P

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  9. :D

    A matrimonial website seems to be the ultimate example of 'traditional with a modern approach' in itself. :P In the past one had to rely on some nosey aunt of some distance cousin to forge matrimonial alliances. But now one can use the modern approach of doing that with some clicks of a mouse.

    By the way, did your profile have a 'hobbies' column ? I wonder about the consequences if only your parents would have added something like - "She likes to blog and is the author of the well known 'Red Handed'..." to the contents of your profile. :D :D :D

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    1. MY GOD!!!!! Hahahahah u know thank God I am anonymous....or else I would die a spinster.
      Actually not a bad idea right? :P

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  10. Don't worry, ho jayega :P

    Keep stashing secrets somewhere and be 'traditionally modern', and just to be on the safe side, never mention your being an advocate.

    Want a lawyer joke? No? Okay. Engineer joke?

    :)
    Happy New Year!

    Blasphemous Aesthete

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    1. KYA HO JAYEGA??? Shaadi nahi karni humko!!!!!
      and yes lawyer joke pls :P

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  11. Now I get what the phrase Traditional with Modern Approach means, and I so nod to that :D
    Well the flash image of Rani- sooper :P

    Hehehe Happy New Year Red :)

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    1. haha....u too might hav to use that phrase soon!!! and super flash image indeed :P
      thank u so much!!

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  12. Oh Red, you said it so accurately! We all, in the end, are traditional with modern approach.

    And I love to manage our dual lives. It kinda gives me a purpose, you know. Like I have something to take care of even when I'm pathetically bored. xD

    Happy new year!

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    1. Duality is the key to a happy and satisfactory survival. we keep others happy and ourselves too!!!
      happy new yr love!

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  13. hey Red:)
    Ah, the major change from MODERN to TRADITIONAL WITH MODERN APPROACH..:P
    and it's a relief that ur parents din't mention you being a lawyer..:P i remember reading a post of urs where the aunty at the wedding ran away 'coz you are a VAKEEL and not suitable for his M.sc CHEMISTRY son..:P
    But i am sure all this is overrated. You are a catch and soon enough you will find the perfect lungi guy for you (with a modern approach ofcourse..;)

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    1. hahahaha my God!! You remembered!! Hhaahah awesome. even I forgot that part!!
      Thank u for being such a lovely reader. Friend indeed!!
      and I will get my catch outside the site. :P

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  14. "We are Modern packed in a facade that is tradition."

    Bang on. I am starting to think that the reason behind me being the "proud" black sheep of my family is because I have always emphasized my 'modern' side over the traditional one. It sucks to live a dual life because a part of me wants to be traditional (not the way the 'society' means by the word) and the other major part of me is a liberal bird flying higher and higher into a chamber of solitude.

    Nothing against matrimonial sites either but would never, ever be a part of them. xD

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    1. Actually I feel this duality is good. This constant tug of war between being liberal and being traditional keeps us grounded. RIGHT?

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    2. Grounded in what way? As in aware of our cultural roots?

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  15. I got hitched via shadi.com so I speak from experience.Seven years ago, I created my own profile and wrote my own intro. My parents had little say in it. If I ever liked a profile, I sent interest and if things looked peachy I informed my parents who took things forward. I would only say that take this platform as an opportunity to meet/date interesting guys and don't do it under the pressure of finding your soul mate. Things worked out for me and it has been amazing 6 years since. Good luck to you!

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    1. Tell your parents that I love them!!! Actually my parents too have given me the choice to sit and find my own, but for some reason I am not able to make myself do so. And I am sooooooo happy for u. 6 yrs is grand!! :)

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  16. Lol!! Been there, done that! Now, married to a hot sizzler who copy-pasted someone else's bio on his page because he did not believe in these sites. :p I have had my share of goof ups with these sites. But, they provided ample entertainment after a tiring day at work.

    Happy fishing! :D

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    1. hahahaahah your hot sizzler needs a standing ovation!!! even my profile is copy pasted :P
      and no fishing!!! I dont like fishing. Not anytime soon!

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  17. I loved your definition of traditional with modern approach... to think of it.. almost all girls are like that... Happy New year to you too

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  18. At last, somebody bothered to solve the mystery. A relative of mine, aware of both the sides, said to me that I suffered from split personality. -_-
    Really. That happened. Thanks for figuring it all out.
    And, as for the hot sizzler that you want, I'm pretty sure you're aware about the scarcity. Still, all the best, honey. I hope you find a man who's hot AND funny like you. :D

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    1. I am sure even she has a split personality. every woman has :P
      And hahah I need a hot sizzler indeed and i wont settle for anything less than that! :P
      Even if I die alone :P
      Thank u for the wishes!!! :)

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  19. Good one..
    "Traditional, but modern", I've nothing much to comment on, however if it its about "Traditional butt modern", that reminds me of those red bottomed macaques who from all other aspects look traditional monkeys except for a modern, sparkling red bottom.

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    1. Oh God!! I feel like a macaque now. :P

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  20. You had me in a fit a laughter, love the way you write! But you're right, traditional with a modern approach explains most Indian women (those who I am associated with). I don't know what these guys are scared of, a modern woman can do everything! Btw, thanks for visiting my blog.

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    1. Seriously...Modern girls are ze best!!!!!
      but i am traditional with a modern approach :P

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  21. This was a fun read. The way Indian get married these days is epic. My bride hunt tales of how the traditional girls with modern approach lurking on these very same portals did short work of me were what brought me maximum traffic.

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  22. I don't know what a JADAKAM is. Must be some kind of caste or lineage thing, because of the word SHUDH before it.

    Don't take this the wrong way: I myself am nearing a marriageable age, and reading things from people like you tells me that normal girls do exist.

    Wish you a good man soon, 'good' more than 'soon'.

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    1. Hey Thanks!! GOOD to know that you find me normal!!!!
      shudh jadakam...means pure horoscope!

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  23. This got me in to lot of thinkinggggggg
    I too called it quits and some how met a man in a strange possbl way. CALLING quits is ur gain. I too sw him on matrimony first but was not a part of it :P
    anyway I LOVED ur post as always
    It has food for thought, fun , Facts , secrets and evrything
    U Rock
    congos on spicy pick :) It sure is the spiciest if u ask me

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    1. You are lucky. Hot sizzler you got!!!!!
      btw what spicy pick?

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  24. from this post it can be inferred that someone traditional with a modern approach has found someone modern with a traditional approach, most probably in a courtroom somewhere like doing advocaty things... Am I right, or am I right ;) :P

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    1. Hhahaha you are wrong SIRJEEEEE!!!

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  25. Your posts are awesome, hilarious, full of awesome humor that a modern girl like me will love. ;) Hahaha! "We do like a drink every now and then but our family doesn’t know about it. We do wear short skirts when with friends but change into Kurta Pajama with Dupatta to cover our ample bosoms when we visit our grandparents." TOTALLY AGREE! And I was confused if I should call myself a hypocrite but now that you have named it, I ll happily call myself a modern with traditional approach! ;)

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    1. Women are forced into hypocrisy. we are awesome anyway!
      Thanks love!!

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  26. You made me smile at the end of a tiring day girl. Good luck with the search!
    BTW, why don\t you share your profile on the blog, so we can find someone for you ;)

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    1. Ioooooooooooo...I dont want to marry!!!

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  27. Traditional Indian woman…ehem..ehem…such phrases are often seen in matrimonial ads :P
    Expectations of society galore..what else to say

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    1. seriously!!!! thank you for reading!

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  28. Oh my God you are such a catch! Big fish ! :D I really hope you find your super hot sizzler who has a sense of humor to die for, and you both read RED HANDED together only to laugh your heads off :D
    I love the traditional girl with modern approach bit. I mean all of us are like that. End of the day we are neither.

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    1. Hhahaha may you wish come true!! May I get a hot sizzler!!
      hahahaha Thanks for reading love. Reading your comment always leaves a smile!

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  29. the words modern and traditional are created by confused people who din't know how to preserve indian culture with the change in life style after industrial revolution or economic reforms.modern and traditional are not two words,with time there are positives and negatives with development around and the person who preserves his culture without deviating to imitate that is not his origin is truly indian. so its upto people to marry someone with culture or without culture.

    most of them dunno what their culture is,how they can define whats traditional and modern?

    lets explain the concept of marriage.marriage is a medieval custom to keep society in order and stable.in ancient india ,opposite genders din't had scope to socialise so to keep future generations intact and to flourish they introduced a custom called marriage.marriage happens between two strangers and the marriage is a commitment to be responsible for the rest of life.so they introduced rituals ,astrology,all stuff around marriage to create stable society.in modern world ,opposite genders have many occasions from schooling to public places to gather,meet and understand.why do we need a medieval custom called marriage which was meant for strangers to keep together. its very funny when people opt for marriage in modern world.

    i do know that people are not flawless or completely ideal to follow above theory,so people opt for marriage.

    its really funny when people post their marriage ads,it sounds more like ebay business than getting into relationship.why any educated has to search grooms or brides online,are they too lost in mind to not to be able to find a bride or groom around people you know.

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    1. This was such a lovely comment. Insightful indeed!!
      Thank you for taking your time to read!!

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  30. the words modern and traditional are created by confused people who din't know how to preserve indian culture with the change in life style after industrial revolution or economic reforms.modern and traditional are not two words,with time there are positives and negatives with development around and the person who preserves his culture without deviating to imitate that is not his origin is truly indian. so its upto people to marry someone with culture or without culture.

    most of them dunno what their culture is,how they can define whats traditional and modern?

    lets explain the concept of marriage.marriage is a medieval custom to keep society in order and stable.in ancient india ,opposite genders din't had scope to socialise so to keep future generations intact and to flourish they introduced a custom called marriage.marriage happens between two strangers and the marriage is a commitment to be responsible for the rest of life.so they introduced rituals ,astrology,all stuff around marriage to create stable society.in modern world ,opposite genders have many occasions from schooling to public places to gather,meet and understand.why do we need a medieval custom called marriage which was meant for strangers to keep together. its very funny when people opt for marriage in modern world.

    i do know that people are not flawless or completely ideal to follow above theory,so people opt for marriage.

    its really funny when people post their marriage ads,it sounds more like ebay business than getting into relationship.why any educated has to search grooms or brides online,are they too lost in mind to not to be able to find a bride or groom around people you know.

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  31. Oh Red, you are awesome!! That 'then it hit me...' paragraph.. it just fits us all so much!!
    You are so cool you won't need a matrimonial website :)

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    1. Hhaha tell that to my parents :( :(
      Thank you love!

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  32. Haha. Awesome post. Reminds me of the days when my dad secretly created a matrimonial profile for me and got terribly upset when it hardly evoked a response :P. I, on the other hand couldn't be happier (wasnt keen on marriage then :P)

    Anyway, i know this nice south indian guy who wasn't brought up in the north, and who's looking for a pretty traditio-mod advocate like you. Baat karu? ;)

    Cheers
    CRD

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    1. Iooo. NO NO..my parents are already doing these brokerage stuff for me :(

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  33. Ok i confess....! You are a revolution! A real tigress... Be like this always my dear.. Traditional with modern approach *Winks* :P

    PS: Never miss on that '1 blush per 15 second'

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  34. This post has been selected for the Spicy Saturday Picks this week. Thank You for an amazing post! Cheers! Keep Blogging :)

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  35. Those lines about every Indian woman being Traditional with Modern Approach is completely true. We are modern and when it is required we can drape the veil of tradition with as much elan as we can dance to the tune of 'Yo Yo Honey Singh!' with tequilas inside us. Aren't we wonderful :)

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    1. hahahahah I nearly dropped from my office chair at the YO YO HONEY SINGH with tequila part!
      Awesome!!
      hahahaha

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  36. Hahaha! Now I AM wondering what the male equivalent of 'traditional with modern approach' would be. Does not like porn but acts as though he does, maybe? :)

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    1. gahahahaha possible indeeed!! Thank u for reading!!

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  37. Ha!Ha! I laughed while reading it - can relate to this one so well :-) Loved the way you said that we are all modern under the facade of being traditional :-) Happy New Year, my dear :-)

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    1. Thank you so much babe!!! Happy New year indeed!

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  38. And one more point to add there... " domestically well trained " :P :P....well, that's what most men expect, that the wife-to-be has to be domestic :D :D... to this date, I don't understand what that actually means. Does it mean being able to get up early in the morning, cook, clean, wash, take care of kids, again cook, clean, wash ?? Seriously, shouldn't the society start thinking better ?

    Superb narration, there ! Lovely, Red Handed ! So much of honesty !

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    1. GOD SERIOUSLY!! How did I forget!! Its like we are cows....!!

      Thank you for reading love!

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    2. So agree to " domestically well trained" . This HAS to change.

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  39. You are simply awesome. Just when I think that "Okay, this must be the best post by RED till now" you go and write something like this and I seem to keep making that statement for every post of yours..
    awesome RED..
    Come to think of it every girl friend of mine seems to fit into the category of "Traditional with a modern approach" thanks for the new term.. really shortens the whole "I like cooking.. pasta". loved the "and it hit me..." part.. So true.. :)
    keep writing.. :)

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    1. You are too kind. That's all. I am humbled!
      Thank you so much for reading!!

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  40. Hahaha!
    You know what, Red- you are so awesome, I bet if any of the people viewing your profile read your blog, they'll be ready to marry you in an instant!
    Lotsa love
    xo
    Hopelessly Hopeful
    http://welcometomypartypeople.blogspot.in/

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    1. Hhahaha if only you were right!! I feel like a million bucks! Thank you!

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  41. //innocent 25yr old divorcee with YouTube links on his profile of him singing, 10th class fail, 45 year old pedophiles, bald body builders, too thin to be carried on my shoulders, watchman, Muslim men with a fantasy of marrying a Hindu girl //


    ROFL...

    btw my brother also had shudhajadhakam.was difficult to get a matching bride for him.

    the man of your dreams will soon arrive...patience....!

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    1. Oh I dont want him to arrive soon. I dont want him to arrive at all. I am awesome alone!! Thank u!!!

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  42. Hilarious post! Have to agree with every word of yours. I was laughing out loud when I thought back on all the things that the "crazy society" calls modern. I must say I joined the club long back-being traditional with a modern approach. The explanation you gave for it is what's true and that's what happens in reality :P

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    1. hahahaha we all are on the same boat...struggling!!
      Let us pack our bags and migrate from here!

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  43. Superb as usual, Hillarious as usual, Really liked the 'Traditional with modern touch' part :D. and also the lass in the pic, but please do away with this Rani 'Aiyya' Mukherjee gif!!

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    1. Hawwwwwwwww...how could you not like the flash image? HOW HOW????????

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  44. I still don't know whether to laugh or cry at your posts and I end up crying with laughter. God bless you for that :P

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  45. 'The Traditional Woman with a Modern Touch' part was the best ever phrase that I've come across and your illustration of the same with examples was befitting. I'm just a few days away from the day parents start groom-hunting. Let's pray for each other shall we? ;-)

    Good luck Advocate Ma'am and Happy New Year :-)

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    1. U r just a few days away? I am already feeling for u woman!!!!!
      Happy new year love!

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  46. soooperrrrr awesomeeeee

    some terrific lines that bombarded me like - . She should be shy, reserved, blushing at the rate of 1 blush per 15 seconds and above all she must practice geometrical drawings with her toes on the ground at the sight of a guy she likes and In a country like India, being modern is the more unacceptable than pre marital sex.

    amazing...and so so so so trueeee

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    1. Thank you babe and welcome to my humble blog!!!!

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  47. Hahahhahah....I would love to marry a traditional girl with modern approach like you , if you make me laugh like this throughout my life.
    You are amazing.


    P.S- Sorry for such a late visit. Been busy with new office. Lame , I know, but that's what kept me away.

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    1. Chalo shaadi kar lein!!!!!! :P
      You are amazing too!!!!
      and no, its now a lame excuse. Office work is a bitch!

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  48. Dreamum Wakeupum Critical Conditionam.

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    1. *Breaks a joint while trying to dance like rani*

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  49. I know this is not even remotely similar in China. But I'm sure they have their own set of problems.

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  50. Brilliant! You have hit the nail on the head. I was laughing out loud, when I read this! :D

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  51. Bang on !!! bloody bang on !
    we indian women fit so well in that category of being traditional with a modern approach. and the saddest point is, even if we want to change that outlook, you will have like some twenty people pulling you down for doing so. and in all this process, there is sort of a give-up that one feels. you end up feeling, its okay to wear a salwar suit with a saree like duppatta covering your bosom since you get to wear that one piece with your husband or partner or gang of girls anyways. You feel its okay to lie about you not using swear words or drinking or smoking or such madern things , since you do that anyway when no one is watching you. or when people who do watch you are those whom you know that they dont care. (okay did that make sense at all) But the point is, why should we do that menn..?? its so annoying, i mean here we are talking about being so oooh and liberated and all that bleh. but the minute it comes to describing the girl to a prospective groom, one always hears lines like..she is a very sanskaari ladki who never wears short skirts and always wears bindi..I mean SERIOUSLY???!! you want to measure the sanskaari-ness of a girl by the one red dot on her forehead. I mean come one man. I have people telling me, now that i am married, i need to wear a bindi..else its baaaad. i mean what the bhennnn !!!! My husband doesnt care if dont wear a mangalsutra for gods sake. and you are talking about a pansy bindi??!! pffft. but who cares..i am as awesome as awesome can be :D:D:D
    anyway..you have written one helluva awesome post only. sorry for the slight distraction..you took me on a mahila samiti trip only :D:D:D
    keep up the mental spirit yo ! you will get a brilliant guy i am telling you. screw the mad society. we rock.
    Cheers molay !! keep up the mantalness \m/

    PS-there..haven't i left my trademark commentu. and 100 comments aah !! abbbo abbo...i had to scroll down the whole page only to finally commentu :P

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    1. Iooooo My MOLAY!!! I the LOVE YOU! I loved your mahila samiti'ish speech!! hahahaha!! and screw that bindy and that mangalsutra. The point is all that matters is loyalty. you give it to your man and that is all that is needed. screw the society.!! HUH!!!

      Btw babe, your comment is always and always my NUMBER 1 !!!!

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  52. Hilarious post... especially the picture of the girl with the saree cut off, perfectly depicts the nature of this post. Yeah, society sucks most of the time... you gotta follow your own arrow. Have you heard this song by Kacey Musgraves - Follow Your Arrow. it would go well with this post. Take care and have a wonderful 2014.

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  53. Hilarious would be an understatement.

    Good Lord, your post took me back 3 years when this same drama happened at my place; including the Shudh Jadakam. Thank God, I got a decent guy. But the whole experience was surreal and I don't mean in the nice way ;)
    Good luck. Emotional atyachar and more drama is on its way!

    P.S : I loved the way you described the "TRADITIONAL WITH A MODERN APPROACH” It's all true :)

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    1. Hhahaah....atleast you got a great guy. I dont want to get married only!!

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  54. You hit the bullseye with this explosive post babe! Brilliantly honest and overwhelming. Agree with every word to the T!

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  55. Traditional with a Modern approach- that's exactly how I describe myself! :) Modern with a Traditional approach isn't as sacred, right?! Agree with every word in your Post! I was smiling though it's the truth.
    You have shown the mirror-image! You ROCK!
    Keep up the spirit! May your match-made-in-Heaven show up in your life soon. Will happen soon for sure.
    Best wishes for a great year! :)
    Thanks for following my Blog :) Hum to tere Follower hain sadiyon puraane :)

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    1. I dont want a match made in heaven..I was a realistic match..I think I already have found it :P

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  56. Awesome as always babe! It reminded me of my friend who had to attend a wedding and then meet some friends post it.. She wore a Kanjeevaram but hardly had any time to change, so she struts into a pub and shares a peg with the friends (all guys) she was to meet... and all this in Chennai with Mallibu (flowers) in the hair! :D

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    1. hahahahaha I can so imagine it..especially coz I am a southy myself..Mallipoov!!! hahahahah

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  57. Hi sweety, this is one of the best posts I've read! A must read for the strong independent women of today :) Keep scribbling :):):)

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  58. This was a humorous read. :D I was smiling all along.
    Bringing in a touch of humor to such happening is indeed a talent!
    After you series of comments at mine I hopped over to see yours and this caught my eye. :)
    So glad.
    Many thanks for the comments at mine.

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  59. Lol...funny post! Had me laughing all the way through. Thankfully, I've never had to do that...the whole traditional stuff I mean. I haven't had to hide the fact that I drink, wear short skirts or dresses. The only 'covering up' I did was wear jeans and a t-shirt. Good luck with the matrimonial websites...heard they can be pretty frustrating. Like any online dating website I suppose.

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  60. Nice post Red. Infact my friend is going through the same thing - a guy friend. Paid account in matrimonial sites and he is losing his interest too! The problem with him is that girls want to know if he owns a house in Mumbai and since the answer is in the negative, they go elsewhere! Problems on both side of the table, Red! :)

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  61. Ah! These traditions, will finish this civilization one day...

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  62. I just commented on someone's blog on the tragedy of the sick, patriarchal mindset that dictates everything and for the, being equal, means some alien concept. I rubbed some feathers the wrong way with my extreme pov, including young women in the family. It's so bloody hypocrite, I mean and wonder whether we should call ourselves civilized.
    Cheerz

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  63. She should be shy, reserved, blushing at the rate of 1 blush per 15 seconds and above all she must practice geometrical drawings with her toes on the ground at the sight of a guy she likes!!!! ..... Lol!! Seriously.... I also don't wanna end up a person met through a matrimonial site... that too with so much insane demands.

    Loved the post! :)

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  64. Fantastic post! I can totally identify with everything you say! How's the search going btw?? ;)

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  65. hahah! fantastic!! loved it :)

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  66. I'm in love with your blogpage and this post so resonates what I've been thinking all this while. Been there, made to do that and cringed at every expression of interest from a 45+ year old widow/divorcee (who haven't faulted ever) and looking for a virgin/bus conductor/clerk/men looking for thrills (especially in the night hours)/very young men just out of college. And they want, "traditional but modern women".

    At one point of time my hobby section included - interior designing. Really? :O What's that? An intelligent auntie interpreted it as, "it's like keeping the house neat, clean and homely"! Seriously? Why do people waste bothering to get themselves a degree/diploma for it.

    I'm so inspired now to dish out my stories of "The Hunt" lasting 8 years, including 2 years at my will. And i don't hunt anymore ;) rather go with the flow.

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